Being critiqued is part and parcel of the writer’s life. It is something that we can’t avoid, and all we can do is simply learn to shrug it off and move on.Not forget about it, but just keep it in mind, learn what is legitimate and take it into account.
Then, discard it and move onto the next big thing.That is to me mostly about how every writer should face it.
But when replying and slamming the person who gave you their opinion is something you’re thinking of doing, maybe consider this alternatives.
#1 Take time off
Take time off it let it gain some distance, and eventually you will see that your work isn’t all that perfect either. The critique may have some real substance to it, or it may be useless to you. But you should never lash out, if you feel like it, take time off.
Do something else to rebuild your self confidence. Distance yourself.
Then, come back once you’re done cooling off.No one is going to blame you, not even the person who wrote the critique.
It hurts, they know that being honest is the best for you, and that most of them are well intentioned, and want to see it be the best it is.
So they won’t blame you for not instantly answering, but rather taking time to reflect and cool down is something they would understand.
So, if you feel like wanting to answer bad in a strongly worded email or argue. Just don’t and instead try to get yourself away from it enough that it doesn’t hurt any longer.
#2 Talk it out
You can find someone to talk to, someone you trust about this issue. Someone who won’t reveal your thoughts and keep it with them. It is better since this person might be neutral, and a close friend or family member who would understand your perspective and simply let you vent it out.
Especially if you’re upset and quite hurt. Talking allows you to simply lay it out, and most would feel better after the whole issue and it simply won’t hurt any longer.
For me, this should be the two main methods for a constructive way to deal with criticism.
As they always say, “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”.
And each time you get a bunch of revisions, you at least know that the work will likely be better for it, or learn to discern good advice from bad advice.